Baby Sleep the Night TM
By Karen Bramall
Creator of The Five Stroke Rule TM

My Philosophy/Crying

The methods I follow were created out of a strong belief that healthy sleep habits make for healthy children – not to mention families!  A well-rested child is curious, energetic, happy, playful, and eager to learn.

When parents entrust me, or one of my team of certified consultants to coach them through this process, either through one-on-one consultations or seminars, they are placing a great deal of trust in us, and I want to let you know that we take this responsibility very seriously.

While most books and programs dealing with child sleep issues take philosophical stands (based largely around the issue of “crying it out”), we believe that your child’s sleep is more important than our personal views on this subject.

That’s why we place so much emphasis on accommodating different parenting styles. The bottom line is that you, as a parent, need to be comfortable with your new sleep plan in order for it to work for your child and you need to understand why it works!

Our approach to improving your child’s sleep is pretty simple:

  • We’ll give you honest information about WHY sleep is so important for your child’s well-being (This will give you all the motivation you need to make changes to your child’s sleep habits.)
  • We’ll lay out an easy-to-follow, step-by-step plan that lets you make some choices about what is the right approach for your child. (All children are different, and nobody knows your child better than you do. We encourage you to use your knowledge of your child to customize his or her sleep plan.)
  • We’ll show you how to measure success. (No, you shouldn’t expect your child to sleep 12 uninterrupted hours on the first night — although it does happen! We’ll tell you what you should expect along the way and stop you second guessing yourself – a very common cause of failure when parents try to do this without expert help…)
  • We’ll be there to, effectively, hold your hand and support you through every stage of this process, to take the guesswork and confusion out of it and ultimately to make it as quick and gentle as possible.

A little note about the “crying” question: Since people always ask me about whether my solutions involve “crying it out,” I think it’s something that deserves to be addressed here.

First of all let me reassure you that I’m not an advocate of controlled crying, shut the door and leave them methods – I’m not saying they don’t work if they’re done absolutely correctly, they do, but I just think they are too tough on all involved. What I will say though is that people tend to be very protective about their sleep environment, we like things to be the same every night, so making big changes to anyone’s sleep environment would almost always be met with some kind of protest – imagine if I changed your pillow before you got into bed tonight, you would notice the difference and probably complain about it!

The same will probably be true for your child and with a child their protest normally involves at least a few tears, so I can’t promise you there will be no crying, in fact with almost all of the families I have helped solve their children’s sleep problem’s there has been at least some – what I can promise you though, is that I won’t ask you to leave your child alone to cry for extended periods, nor will I ask you to ignore their cries should they continue whilst they are learning this new skill, if that is something that worries you.

The reason that our methods are so effective is that they let you develop a plan that you feel comfortable with, based on what you know about your child.

All that said I completely understand that no-one likes the idea of hearing their child crying, I am a mother of three myself and have been in your shoes. Please do have a read of some of the testimonials by clicking theHappy Clients tab at the top of the page to find out just what’s involved from people who have really been there – most will say it’s nothing like as bad as they thought and is the best thing they have ever done.

Our  programmes are aligned with the best practices recommended by The UK’s National Health Service, The American Academy of Pediatrics, and The Canadian Pediatric Society.

If you have any questions at all about the philosophy behind my method, please don’t hesitate to ask!

I can be reached by email at or by telephone on 01794 341172

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