The ‘Baby Sleep the Night™’ Philosophy
Before being a child and baby sleep specialist, I am first and foremost a mother. For me, the most important thing, as a parent or as a child sleep consultant, is a child’s well being.
My Baby Sleep the Night™ gentle sleep-training programme is based on the belief that proper sleep not only helps the child but also the entire family!
Plus, you can rest assured that my philosophy and methods are aligned with best practices recommended by The UK’s National Health Service, The American Academy of Pediatrics, and The Canadian Pediatric Society.
Background and Experience
Teaching my children to be fantastic independent sleepers benefited them immensely, and in turn, my family. That’s why I dedicated my professional career to helping other parents who were as desperate as me to get their babies and toddlers to sleep.
For over a decade I’ve helped thousands of families get more out of life with my tried and tested methods that are more than just tips to get your baby to sleep. I ensure that every step is done precisely right, leaving absolutely no stone unturned. Close attention to detail is vital, and is why I hold a 100% success rate with families that stick to my gentle caring plans.
Whether it’s a baby going through a sleep regression or a six year old with bad sleeping habits, I’ve worked with them all!
During my training, I learnt all about the importance of sleep within the development of children. I also realised how a baby’s sleep pattern affected the health of the parents too. In short, when I helped stressed and tired mums and dads get their child to sleep, I inadvertently helped the family as a whole.
The more I helped, the more passionate I became about toddler and baby sleep training. The more passionate I became, the more I wanted to spread the knowledge I had acquired in the process.
This is why I started training sleep consultants and certifying them to practise my philosophy.
I am determined to train people who care just as much as I do, so that they can help parents and babies get the sleep they need.
I understand that when parents reach out to a Baby Sleep the Night™-certified child sleep consultant to ask for help with their child’s sleeping habits, it’s almost always a last resort. Most parents never consult a baby sleep specialist because they feel it might make them seem like ‘failing at parenting’. Our Baby Sleep the Night™- certified consultants and I want you to know that asking for help does not make you a failure. Isn’t it said that it takes a village to raise a child?
However, we will make sure you understand the reason behind each and every step of the plan, why it’s so important, how it contributes to your child getting enough sleep.
What’s more, if you follow the detailed steps in your bespoke sleep plan you will notice a positive change in your little one, in terms of their energy levels, general happiness, and well being. That’s the power of good sleep!
Your Child’s Bespoke Sleep Plan
There are various methods to get your child to sleep that I use and teach. These strategies are based on individual family needs and preferences.
The most common specialist sleep solution I practise, and train the Baby Sleep the Night™-certified consultants, is the Gradual Retreat Sleep Training Plan.
This allows you to be right there with your child, touching them, talking to them and comforting them throughout the process of learning to sleep.
This isn’t for all families, of course. There are other ways to solve sleep issues and this is something that will be discussed in depth. This is so that parents get to choose what is right for them and their circumstances.
Regardless of method used, the success is in the detail – getting it just right. A consultant certified by the Baby Sleep The Night ™ will have been taught to:
- Learn About Your Child
As a parent, no one knows your child better than you. That’s why the Baby Sleep the Night™-certified sleep specialist will discuss your child’s sleep habits before designing a customised gentle sleep plan to get your child to sleep.
- A Step-by-Step Plan
After they’ve got to know all about you and your child, they’ll lay out a plan. This will detail the steps that you’ll need to help get your child to sleep in an easy-to-follow, step-by-step format. But don’t worry – it’s not a hard and fast rulebook. It’s designed to give you enough discretionary power to make choices that will work best for you and your child!
- Explain How to Measure Success
They will also explain what results can be achieved at what stage. The end goal is to get to the point where your child will sleep 12-hours a night. However, this will not usually happen on the first night (although it might!)
- Manage Your Expectations
As part of the gentle sleep training programme, they’ll tell you exactly what to expect. Baby Sleep the Night-certified consultants take the uncertainty and guesswork out with their detailed ways to get your child to sleep. Effectively, they will hold your hand and support you throughout.
‘Crying it Out’
People always ask me whether the Baby Sleep the Night™ ways to get a child to sleep involve letting the baby ‘cry it out’. Here are my thoughts on this.
Let me reassure you that I’m not an advocate of controlled crying, ‘shut the door and leave them’ methods. I’m not saying they don’t work if they’re done correctly. They do.
However, I just think they are too tough on all involved.
What I will say though is we like things to be the same every night. Making big changes to anyone’s sleep environment would almost always be met with some kind of protest. With a child, their protest normally involves at least a few tears. So, I can’t promise you there will be no crying. In fact, with almost all of the families I have helped, there has been at least some.
I also completely understand that no one likes the idea of hearing their child cry. I myself am a mother of three and have been in your shoes. The Baby Sleep the Night™ philosophy does not rely on asking you to leave your child alone to cry for extended periods.
The reason that the Baby Sleep the Night™ methods are so effective is that they let you develop a planned way of getting your baby, toddler, or child to sleep that you feel comfortable with. This is completely based on what you already know about your child.
Sleep regressions happen at very important stages in a baby’s life. Despite what the name implies, it is in fact developmental rather than a regression.
So what is it?
For adults, a sleep cycle has four stages. These are:
- Drifting off
- Light sleep
- Deep sleep
- REM sleep
For a newborn, however, there are only two stages – deep sleep and REM sleep. Since these are both deep sleep stages, your baby will usually sleep soundly once they do drift off.
However, around the age of four months, the sleep cycle develops into the four-stage sleep, with stages of light sleep. Since this is so new for the baby, they will easily wake up when they reach those stages.
While the four-month sleep regression is the most well known, babies can also go through sleep regression commonly at the ages of 8 months or 18 months, or at just about any age! It usually lasts for two to six weeks, while the baby adjusts and adapts to this lighter sleep duration.
However, if you aren’t expecting it, it can be distressing.
Sleep regression can throw a lot of parents off. They can’t understand why their child, who was sleeping so well, is suddenly waking up unexpectedly.
My gentle sleep-training programme is designed to ensure that this phase is easily and quickly managed instead of becoming the basis of poor sleeping behaviour for your child.
Learn More About Our Gentle Sleep Training Methods and Results
My methods have worked consistently over the last decade. This is why teach them to all the Baby Sleep the Night™-certified consultants.
Please do have a read of some of the Happy Client testimonials where parents talk about their own experiences.
We contacted Karen in utter desperation and exhaustion, after 9 long months of our baby daughter Rose not sleeping for… more than 1-2 hours at a time. We tried everything to get our daughter to drift into the deep, restorative sleep she clearly needed night and day, but nothing would work. We were beyond tired. After a difficult start in life, including a traumatic period in hospital, Rose quickly became a highly sensitive baby and a very poor sleeper. We felt we had tried everything, and just hoped things would get better as Rose got older; that she would naturally fall into a good sleep pattern all by herself. Unfortunately they didn’t and in the end we came to realise we needed expert help. We were looking for a sleep solution that was as kind as possible to both our daughter and us. Karen reassured us that Rose’s sleep problems were completely normal, and that we had done absolutely the right thing in comforting and responding to our daughter for those long and difficult months before seeking assistance. Karen took a detailed history and helped us to understand how sleeps works and the importance of good sleep. Karen was sympathetic, supportive and non-judgemental in her approach and advice. After following the tailored sleep plan, Rose now sleeps for 11 hours in the nights, and naps for almost 2 hours during the day! The difference has been simply life-changing for all of us. Rose is thriving after finally getting her much-needed sleep and we can enjoy our lovely, happy daughter to the full. We have already recommended Karen to all our friends with children. Read more “”
“Having already had one daughter who had mastered the art of sleeping within the first two months of her life,… I was one of those smug mums who naturally assumed number two daughter would follow suit! How wrong I was. After a difficult start to life, numerous operations and hospital trips, our little girl decided that she wouldn’t waste another moment of her precious life – especially sleeping. After 11months reading numerous books, googling different websites and trying all sorts of weird and wonderful new routines, sleep still eluded us, and I contacted karen at baby sleep the night as a last resort. After a couple of hard nights getting to grips with the new routine, I felt we were finally spending more time with our heads on our own pillows than against her bedroom wall, when a chesty cold hit our household and had everyone up throughout the night. I can honestly say, without Karens constant reassuring words that with patience and consistency we would get there; giving us new tips to try and holding our hands every step of the way, we would have thrown in the towel and admitted defeat. And of course she was right – sleep no longer eludes us, our daughter not only sleep soundly at night but loves a siesta twice a day. And all this just in time for her first birthday and Christmas. Thank you Karen for the best present money could buy – a good nights sleep” Many thanks once again and have a wonderful family christmas. Read more “”
What can we say? After months of sleep deprivation and a toddler, who had just turned two, slowly turning into a… vampire we finally decided enough was enough and after a recommendation enlisted the help of Karen at Baby Sleep The Night. After a friendly chat and then a thorough consultation a plan was devised. With a few simple and manageable changes with Karen guiding us all the way this new plan was put in place.On the first night we were not woken up and Theo no longer had his dummy. A fluke…surely? Well we are now nearly two months on and we have one very happy little boy who now loves his sleep – nearly as much as Mummy and Daddy do now. Thank you so much Karen. The difference you have made to our family life is amazing. I just wish we had asked for your help sooner Read more “”
My toddler woke up screaming about 11 every night He would then stay up and sleeping was the thing that… he would fight We thought that we’d tried everything, exhausted and depressed We found this sleeping website and desperate, put it to the test It is by far the best thing we have ever signed up to His dummy’s gone, he sleeps all night which means that we can too We cannot praise too highly this lady’s method and her skill Our family life is back on track Recommend her? Yes we will!!! Read more “”
Thanks to Karen and her plan our 9 month old daughter now consistently sleeps 11 and a half /12 hours… night and has 2 decent length naps in the day. We sought Karen’s advise after all being sleep deprived and after realising that we were falling into bad habits at bedtime and nap time. We could be in and out of her room up to 6 times at night and sometimes trying to settle her for up to 2 hours in the middle of night. In sheer desperation and exhaustion I started bringing her into our bed, which I knew I didn’t want to do but felt I had no other option. After religiously following Karen’s sleeping plan Amelie slept through the night from day 2. We couldn’t believe how quickly it worked for Amelie. We can’t thank Karen enough!! Read more “”
Hello, my name is Kelly. If you’d have said to me six months ago I would be sleeping for more… than two to three hours in a row at night and more than five hours in total, I would have never have believed it! Since the night we brought our baby Harry home he has not slept through a single night.. Until now! After twenty one months of sleep deprivation we were at our wits end mentally and physically. When a friend recommended us to Karen, I was ready to get help. It had been suggested to me in the past but I think like many parents I hoped things would get better on their own and felt that if we just hung in there we could sit it out until then! I must admit that as much as I wanted to put my faith in this stranger to solving all our night time traumas, I was somewhat dubious as to how she was going to achieve this. After all, many stories I heard were of babies or toddlers not wanting to go to bed and having to be asleep before being put into their cots etc. Harry rarely made a fuss about actually going to bed, his problem was the million times through the night when he would wake up! I couldn’t understand how anyone could stop that. My doubts were outweighed though by my desperation for sleep! Working with Karen was very interesting. She had been where we were now and it helped knowing she understood. Most of the changes we were advised to make were so subtle that my doubts about how they would make a difference started to worry me.After the first two nights it was clear that these changes were extremely noticeable to Harry! Karen had always said from the start that the first few nights would be the hardest and she wasn’t wrong! Also I wasn’t expecting for the changes we had been advised to make in the daytime to be as challenging as they were also. Throughout it all though Karen was there and we followed her instruction to the letter. Well to cut a long story short! I am still waiting for this amazing transformation to Harrys sleep pattern to end and for me and my other half to fall back into our nights of cat naps and crying (apply that to whoever you wish)!! to reinstate itself! I just can’t believe that pretty much from day four of working with Karen our boy has slept all night every night without us getting up to him. I still do not know how this happened! But it did and all I can say if you are reading this through bleary eyes after yet another sleepless night when that first little murmur from their cot sets your adrenalin racing and your palms sweating is, get in touch with this lady! We are still working on the finer points of Harry’s routine but everything takes time to perfect and obviously when he was poorly with a cold over Christmas things were harder, but we have the tools now to get back on track when we need to. All I can say is that it worked! Don’t wait a single day more! Happy, restful new year! Read more “”
Karen’s advice and support has proved invaluable. Following two years of regularly broken sleep, we really weren’t sure what to… do next. Karen made sure she fully understood our situation before giving us strategies to use that have made a huge difference to our daughter’s sleeping habits and our ability to enjoy a decent night’s sleep. We can now deal with any problems with complete confidence. I wish we’d found Karen months ago. Read more “”
We have struggled with poor sleeping patterns for a very long time with our 3 year old – almost since… he was born. At times, the sleep deprivation and bedtime behaviour was almost insufferable and everyone was affected. We decided that enough was enough and felt that there must be something we could do, but we felt utterly powerless, as everything we had read and tried to date had failed. However, we came across Karen through a friend and within a week of starting the programme, we experienced a massive change in sleeping behaviour – a positive change that is maintained three weeks later and has now become the norm.
At a time when we were so tired and could not see the wood for the trees, Karen disected the route causes of the problem and constructed a programme that was the sum of many small changes. It was firm but fair, initially a challenge (mainly a psychological one as parents) as it required a concerted and consistent change of behaviour from us in order to bring about the required changes for our three year old, but it worked really well.
I cannot say how much better we both feel and as a dad, I feel my relationship with my youngest has improved massively as we now both have so much more energy to play and learn together thanks to so much more sleep. This programme and approach has made such a positive impact, it’s hard to say how much. I cannot recommend Karen highly enough – it has made the world of difference, thank you! Read more “”
My 7 month old baby girl was waking every hour and needing to be resettled every night from the day… she was born. Our lives were horrendous and my husband and I were arguing all the time and my other two children suffering as we were sooo tired all the time. Having read all the books and with two other children who always slept the night from 3 months I didnt think we were ever going to sleep believing Sienna was just a baby who wouldn’t ever be able to sleep properly. I decided to hire karen and see if she could help. If im honest I didnt think anything would work.. I am an experienced mum and didnt think there was anything karen could do that I hadnt already tried. But it did work and on night 2 of karens sleep plan Sienna, to my complete surprise slept the whole night. . She has slept every night since. Most nights 12 hours solid. I cant thank her enough for changing our lives. Miracles do indeed happen (with the right help). My only regret is I didnt hire her sooner. Thanks karen xxx Read more “”
At 18 months Molly had never slept through the night, waking up regularly and co sleeping with me. I decided… that it was time to implement a new routine and help Molly learn to self-settle but wanted to make sure that whatever I did I followed it through and made it as easy as possible for Molly (and me!). A friend recommended Karen and I am very grateful she did as Molly now sleeps through the night for a minimum of 12 hours. The plan made a lot of sense and Karen made sure she explained the reasons for each step which made me fully confident it would work and demonstrated the importance of consistency. I really can’t believe that now, as long as I follow my routine, I put Molly into her cot, walk out the door and before I know it she is asleep and then I don’t see her again to the morning! Thank you Karen! Read more “”